Archive for October 23rd, 2014


hate begets hate


A comment to yesterday’s post bothered me a little. BobH said that I should have taken the “soft approach” first with Teri Wadsworth, and asked her first for the reasons why she thinks the way she does. You know, things like evidence and stuff.

I like BobH a lot; what he thinks carries a lot of weight with me. And yes, I will admit that sometimes (not very often though) I have a pretty short fuse. But I am not the kind of guy that responds to a punch in the nose by asking my assailant, “Will you please tell me why you did that?” I’ll strike back first and ask questions later. Maybe it’s a flaw, but we’re all imperfect and I’m willing to live with myself as I am, warts and all.

Sometimes leading with a punch to the nose and following up with an offer of reconciliation is the best strategy, especially in the rough-and-tumble world of prisons. I can think of at least one instance where this approach led to a mutually-respectful relationship with a high-level prison administrator. It continues to this day.

It seems to me that the important thing—the bottom line—is that the kids we represent know that they have a fierce defender in their corner, come what may. Even if the act that got them in trouble with the system is indefensible, they are being rigorously defended, no matter what. Even if all their former friends and family have abandoned them, we will be the last man standing. Without question. Without judgement. Without hate for anyone on either side of the bars.

Thinking about haters, do any longtime readers remember a guy named Steve Piantedosi, a corrections officer from Hartford CT, who publishes a particularly offensive blog called “People You’ll See In Hell”? He first appeared on my radar screen several years ago during the early days of the Jordan Brown controversy. He claimed that Jordan was an “evil little fucker” and I (and, subsequently, the courts) took the opposite view. He and the readers of this blog got into quite a comment war that went on for hours and 62 comments until I cut it off.

Out of curiosity I went out to his blog last night and saw a radically toned-down site. It seems that someone (not me) hacked his site about a year ago and trashed everything that was out there. As one who writes a blogsite, I can imagine how devastating this must have been for Mr. Piantedosi, and I empathize with him. Regardless of what you think of his site, this shouldn’t have been done.

But it was predictable. You reap what you sow, and Mr. Piantedosi trades in hate—the same kind of hate that brought down his site. I guess if you wait long enough, if you’re patient enough, Karma works in this world after all.


Groove of the Day

Listen to John Lennon performing “Instant Karma”