This morning Lone Heron called, and in the course of our discussing a case in which a young person refused to accept my ‘kinder gentler’ view of how things work, she recounted an experience with one of her clients which she believed to possibly be an example of demonic possession. She believed this case to be so beyond her abilities to be of help, she first referred this client to a priest. After visiting her priest, the client was transformed and receptive to the help that Lone Heron could provide.
I don’t believe in demonic possession, but I do believe that people have got to be willing to change before they are ready to benefit from any help that another person can give. Otherwise it is a wasted effort.
So whatever it takes to make the first step.
You want to believe in demons? Okay… though I think it would serve you better in your life if you believed you are the source of the power to change your life, and not something outside of you.
If you persist in believing in your “powerlessness” and can only take the first step by relying on a “higher power,” so be it. The important thing for now is experiencing the relief of making an immediate change.
I am not keen on believing in psychologists who prey on people’s weakness. This is why of all the theories of therapy, I am most enamored with something called “Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy” (REBT).
REBT was created and developed by the American psychotherapist and psychologist Albert Ellis. REBT is one form of cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) and was first expounded by Ellis in the mid-1950s; development continued until his death in 2007.
The fundamental belief in REBT is that a process of “self talk” based on beliefs takes place between some adversity (or activating event) and the consequence. Contrary to what is implied by “John makes me mad,” one’s beliefs about John and what you tell yourself about John is what makes you feel mad. This is expressed in the A-B-C-model of psychological disturbance and change.
According to REBT, if a person’s evaluative B (belief about the A, activating event) is rigid, absolutistic, and dysfunctional, the C (the emotional and behavioral consequence) is likely to be self-defeating and destructive. Alternatively, if a person’s evaluative B belief is preferential, flexible, and constructive, the C, the emotional and behavioral consequence, is likely to be self-helping and constructive.
In other words, how we choose to think about something is the unrecognized intermediate step in how we choose to react to some external person or event. We are in the driver’s seat, and not a passive passenger constrained or guided by anyone or anything beyond our control.
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