I’ve noticed that a few comments have come in saying that the kids’ versions of the abuse they say they’ve suffered at the hands of family members, some of them deceased, never happened. Who can say for sure? Certainly not me.
I wasn’t there. I don’t know the families. I don’t know what the truth is. All I know is that kids are hard-wired not to harm those who are supposed to care for them, and that something pretty remarkable and twisted happened that resulted in violence and death.
Statistically, most kids are to be believed. Not all kids, but most. I am sure that some juvenile parricides concoct stories of abuse as a means of justifying an act of violence and dodging responsibility, but I believe this to be a minority. When a family member comes forward saying that the alleged abuse never happened, they could just as believably be saying, “I don’t come from a family where that could have been happening right under my nose.” Where one’s self-image is involved, denial is as strong a possibility as just believing the kid.
I know several adults who came from families where such abuse happened, but it did not result in parricide. The horrible secret remained well-hidden; other family members never knew or suspected; transgressors never knew how close to death their acts actually took them. I know this is not an insignificant problem. It is more common than most people would like to think.
Especially family members.
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