by Derek King
One of the foundational principles of being a man, and therefore a fundamental element of fatherhood, is responsibility.
Many people in American society today scoff at and do everything possible to stay away from the responsibility of marriage.
Marriage is a public ceremony to show the world you have made a promise to be committed to one person for the rest of your life. If a person can’t even be committed, how are they to be expected to fulfill their role as a primary caregiver to the lives they help bring to Earth? It is sad for me to see that to a vast majority views pregnancy as merely an adverse side-effect. Here is the results of some research I have done:
According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 24 million children in America—one out of every three—live in biological father-absent homes. Nine in ten American parents agree this is a “crisis.”
Consequently, there is a “father factor” in nearly all of the social issues facing America today. But the hope lies in the fact that children with involved fathers do better across every measure of child well-being than their peers in father-absent homes.
In a study examining father involvement with 134 children of adolescent mothers over the first 10 years of life, researchers found that father-child contact was associated with better socio-emotional and academic functioning. The results indicated that children with more involved fathers experience fewer behavioral problems and score higher on reading achievement tests. This study showed the significance of the role of fathers in the lives of at-risk children, even in the cases of nonresident fathers.
Father involvement in schools is associated with the higher likelihood of a student getting mostly A’s. This was true for fathers in biological parent families, for stepfathers, and for fathers heading single-parent families.
One thing I have learned growing up is that boys desperately seek to have a male role model to teach them what it means to be a man. If they do not have this father figure in place, they will find one. Fatherless boys are like loaded guns, full of potential in the hands of anyone whom they look up to as a role model. In a daughter’s life, a father demonstrates how she is to be treated by a male who loves her. Without this, she never knows what love really looks like and never has someone there to teach her that she deserves better than the charm of seduction.
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(It stormed again this afternoon, though of shorter duration.)